Your vibe attracts your tribe
Jetting off for my first women’s waterski week in Florida, I was excited, but not sure what to expect. We would be five ladies, staying together in a house for five days—eeek, this could be estrofest drama! I only knew one of them, my friend and World Champion Waterskier, Whitney McClintock Rini, who had asked me to come down to ski, and do the plant-based cooking for the week.
Landing at the Orlando airport, Whit picked me up and although we hadn’t seen each other in 3 years, we instantly settled back into our chummy old ways. I believe our connection stems from our ability to be our authentic selves, share common interests, and have an honest curiosity about each other—Life is too short and too exhausting for small talk!
As the ladies trickled in the first night, I was interested to learn more about each of them; where they were from, what their goals were for the week, and who they were as people. Enthralled by the variety of accents, I couldn’t help but smile and impersonate the southern drawl and distinctive New York character. They made a little fun of my cliche Canadian “eh” too. We traded stories and smiles and tucked into bed early in preparation for Day 1 of skiing.
Connection is an essential ingredient in living a fulfilled (Zesty) life. As humans, we have a fundamental desire to be absolutely connected with all life. Connection is critical for our health. When we feel connected to others our bodies release the bonding chemical oxytocin, which makes us feel good and increases our well-being.
Finding your tribe
Be the person you wish to attract. The first step in building your tribe is to live your best life and let people organically come to you. What are you passionate about? Do those things. If you love yoga, go to classes and retreats. If you love art, go to galleries and sign-up for classes. If you love biking, go on a group ride or join a club.
Spend time with people who push each other to be their best selves, and surround yourself with those who’re passionate about seeing you succeed. Stop taking and instead, give, give, give without expecting anything in return. Consider what values matter most to you, and then look for people with those values.
Nurturing your tribe
One of the most important traits of a good tribe member is being collaborative not competitive. By collaborating, you are increasing the strength of your tribe, trusting everyone for who they and encouraging them to be their best self. Being collaborative pushes humanity forward, and the collective consciousness of connection, belonging, love and empowerment.
The women at my ski week were simply amazing collaborators. We cheered each other on and high-fived our individual successes, we supported each other in daily tasks and lended an ear for those going through life struggles, we made each other smile with affectionate teasing, and had an unforgettable time!
When you let go and open yourself up to others, you experience authentic flow and become a conduit of positive energy; attracting positive people into your life…